tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831804.post7390607621665101432..comments2024-02-27T09:33:20.185-08:00Comments on The Duchy of Burgundy Carrots: Settling Down and SettlingQueen of Carrotshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03193758647591339890noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831804.post-24242882918640158142014-01-07T08:46:38.508-08:002014-01-07T08:46:38.508-08:00I just read this series and wanted to let you know...I just read this series and wanted to let you know how much I enjoyed it. I agree with everything you said, and appreciated the way you said it. My family wasn't into so-called courtship as I was growing up, but my father really got into it as soon as I got interested in someone. We had a horrendous time of it at the time, but for once in my life I was stubborn. I think now that it was mostly a personal issue of having a hard time letting go (I was his eldest.). He has lots of respect for my husband now, and a few grandchildren helped. :) And I have had no regrets.Education is a Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09630031813554150232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831804.post-82572961630605463852012-06-12T14:16:14.705-07:002012-06-12T14:16:14.705-07:00I've found these posts fascinating, although I...I've found these posts fascinating, although I come from a background where "courtship" was not just not an issue. Later on (after I was married) the Josh Harris book came out and I read it and thought it sounded nice - very interesting to hear the other side.<br /><br />I was a firm believer that there was no such thing as love at first sight...until I saw my husband. It was like getting hit by lightning in both the positive and negative senses!<br /><br />@Autodidact Funniest "how we met" ever! Wonder what they tell their kids!Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14745372502346991328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831804.post-59966279091633377932012-06-11T19:42:25.690-07:002012-06-11T19:42:25.690-07:00Ha! That is quite a story. I guess sometimes what ...Ha! That is quite a story. I guess sometimes what happens in Vegas *doesn't* stay in Vegas.<br /><br />On point 3, I would say my experience was very similar. And I'd like to boil it down and quantify it and say why or what, but I don't get it either.Queen of Carrotshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03193758647591339890noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831804.post-56371737610605486512012-06-10T23:54:18.778-07:002012-06-10T23:54:18.778-07:00Perhaps I should just go with Agur, son of Jakeh: ...Perhaps I should just go with Agur, son of Jakeh: <br />"There are three things that are too wonderful for me, four that I do not understand: <br />The way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a snake on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a maiden." Proverbs 30:18-19Diary of an Autodidacthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11849157548643091986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5831804.post-60392713135638691572012-06-10T23:24:13.503-07:002012-06-10T23:24:13.503-07:00Yet another excellent post. As usual, I have a few...Yet another excellent post. As usual, I have a few random thoughts:<br /><br />1. "Almost final" coming from a lawyer means about the same thing as "in conclusion" from a pastor. Draw your own conclusions here...<br /><br />2. My favorite "how they met" story is one of a colleague who I met while clerking on a big case for my now father-in-law. In essence, they met at a bar while he was shacking up with another woman. He got so drunk she drove him home in his car. He passed out, and she had no way to get home. The next morning, they decided to drive to Vegas, where they both got drunk out of their minds again, and decided to get married. He was so stewed, he misspelled his own name on the marriage certificate. After coming to, he tried to get it annulled, but was denied, and told he had to file for a divorce. He decided it was too much trouble. 20+ years and 4 kids later, they are happily married. Not that I would recommend that method or anything...<br /><br />3. Intellectually, I agree that there is no "one person." Intellectually, I think falling in love is silly. My wife and I are serious and sensible and pragmatic, and figured we would each pick based on logical, well-thought-out criteria. If we could find a person suitable that would have us. We also knew the first time we saw each other that we were getting married. Even if it took a year for me to get my courage up. We knew before we started dating, courting, whatever it was, that we would fall hard if we ever started. I don't even know how to explain it, but everything I thought I knew about love, marriage, and commitment was turned on its head. Eleven years together, and we still don't understand it, but we really were meant for each other. It wasn't justification of a choice. It wasn't a "love is a choice, not a feeling" thing at all. We were and are bonded in a way that I still don't really believe exists. Maybe in eternity this will make sense, but for now, we are just along for the ride.Diary of an Autodidacthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11849157548643091986noreply@blogger.com